The secret to becoming a natural woman is: Being natural means you get results without thinking, and one’s subconscious mind masters an arena or topic without effort. Naturals are often charismatic and “shine” with women. A word that explains this is that they come off as congruent.
People may pick up if you have lived a certain way and suddenly say some lines you have read in a book (sentences that initially worked for the author’s personality). The behaviour you show is not integrated into your character. It is natural to say or do things without blocks, tensions, or problems, and it feels right.
Imagine someone trying to pick up a girl for the first time, and he talks unnaturally. People seeing this may think, “What is he doing?” Your body language often displays what is going on inside you. So if you are nervous or unsure, people can see this. All experiences get stored inside your body. The goal is to get positive experiences so that your body language becomes more and more attractive.
You get correct body language either by socializing a lot OR by releasing tension from your body. Just as positive experiences get stored in your body, so do terrible experiences get stored in your body too. Either way, if you choose to get positive feedback or get rid of negative feedback. It leads to a more natural body language. The book Code of the Natural, by Rob Brinded, describe this closer and is a good read for getting better insights and results.
Being normal is also underrated in the seduction community. When talking to girls, it’s not just about doing techniques. You can also express yourself, tell her about your day and thoughts, and tell her a story. You are regular shows with at least some average perceptions and qualities. I strongly recommend that a person be perceived as “normal” before learning to pick up techniques and games. We will write more about pickup and the game later.
A person gets normal by socializing. If you are “yourself” with good friends and express yourself by talking openly and feeling safe, then these things will implement in your personality. Your socialization and everything that follows (validation, thrust, social codes, body language, etc.) will shine through. People can pick up whether you have an excellent socialization history or not. Remember to be with friends and family. We suggest this because it often gives you good relations with trust, support, and openness. It’s essential to 1. be normal. 2. then learn some games.
What is the Game:
In the beginning, “game” is pretending to be something you are not. For example, you initially pretend you are non-needy but implement these attitudes with practice, which becomes natural. It’s fake till you make it. The long-term goal is to become “natural”. You don’t want to be a player who pretends you are not needy when you are needy deep inside. You don’t want to keep “gaming” or acting forever. It’s fine initially but comes when you should become natural at the deepest level.
The game is also about reading NEW information. At first, it will be new information for you. In this phase, doing the techniques and routines is an act as you try it out. Then you will see that it works and keep doing it more and more. After implementing it for some time, it becomes a natural unconscious habit. The process of learning, moving from conscious practice to an unconscious habit. The goal is to reach unconscious competence.
When you read a book about socialization, sometimes the information may be new to you, or sometimes you recognize it (previously unconsciously). If you realize it and can say, “Yeah, I am already doing that; this book only puts words on how my life is “, then you are natural as you are already doing what the book describes and teach.
If everything is new to you, then you are learning it. Applying it may be described as a “game”, but after a specific time, you master it and do it unconsciously. Then, it’s natural for you. Many of the books about dating describe what naturals already do. If you ARE natural, read a book about pickup, and want to practice the tips in the book, you are taking a step back from where you are!
The word «natural» means people with unconscious habits. People who practice «games» act as if they know what they are doing when they are learning something new. The goal is to practice enough until you get skilled. Practice makes perfect, and your conscious efforts become unconscious after a while. Succeeding without conscious effort is when you can be labelled a natural.
Socialize until you get liked by being yourself around your male and female friends and are ready to go to the next level – seduction. Here, slowly try learning from other naturals who remind you most of yourself and your personality—slowly learning by implementing a new thing one step at a time. If it works, implement it. If it doesn’t, try something else.
You want to focus on learning things one step at a time so y; ou doesn’t get overwhelmed with information. Having a good pedagogy coach who can teach you what you need to know when you are ready would be ideal. Feel free to share this post with a friend who likes this topic! Maybe you could support each other in the learning process.