Rumour Control – How to stop gossip

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Are they gossiping about me?

Rumour control is a way to reduce malicious rumours about oneself.

There are several ways to do this. The best way, of course, is to behave appropriately, so that it minimizes the risk of rumours.

Unfortunately, it is also possible to get rumours that are not accurate despite your actions to avoid them. It is not entirely politically right to say, but some human beings and environments are worse at spreading rumours than others. So a good tip will be to try to avoid “questionable” people. These are people who bully and are active in nefarious activities. The best information for having a dramatic free life is to deal with people who are in “balance.” People who seem reflected, ethical and have a healthy lifestyle.

Having a good upbringing, doing good at school, having active leisure, and working can be called “having things in place.” With some practice, one quickly sees who has “things in place” and who doesn’t. If you are in a situation where you don’t, it is recommended to work with yourself until you have it. Know what “average” is and what is “different.” Rumours are about what is “different,” so be conscious of not talking about anything too strange, then you will not be perceived differently.

Another tip about rumours is to not respond to them. Where one uses the tactic to “tie it to death.” Many people tend to talk about it, defend themselves, and ask people they meet “have you heard the rumours about A, B, and C”? Here one spreads the rumours themselves and reminds people of the matter. The same with the news, some cases will be updated, while other things are forgotten with time. If you talk to everybody to fix it, it often ends up with the reputation still being updated.

Some people see humour or excitement in getting people to react, both in terms of bullying and rumours. If you do not respond or care, some of the enthusiasm disappears in spreading rumours. If you meet people who are spreading rumours about you, simply ignore them.

To help you ignore a person, ask your unconscious mind to help you. Your unconscious mind will help you concerning body language and other “micro gestures” to ignore the person. The person should not feel you are actively missing them. It’s more about them being like a stranger to you.

Another method of reputation control is to do the opposite of the reputation. If the rumour tells you that you have had many superficial relationships, finding a regular girlfriend can be an idea. If someone claims you are racist, you may want foreigners as friends. If someone claims you’re stingy, you can spend some money on your social group. Do the opposite of what the rumour says. If there is a group or environment behind the stories, then avoid the specific nightclub, place, or background.

Another approach is to know the friends of the rumour starters. The person will not bother to spread malicious rumours about a friend of their friends. If one speaks positively of the person, there may be a withdrawal. People appreciate hearing about themselves from other people.

In social media, you don’t want to stand out. For example, if you are a celebrity, you will be placed in the spotlight, and attention will be directed to you. If you do not want so much attention, then just accept trustworthy friends. Don’t “accept” everyone on Facebook. If you are friends with thousands of people, you are in practice on the reputation exchange.

To further avoid rumours is to have a picture of yourself at facebook in a Halloween costume, for example, or in the distance. Your friends and those who know you will not care if you have a picture where you have a dress on.

If things are terrible, you can always delete yourself from Facebook and just have contact with your friends and family through your phone. You can also move to a new city. Concerning your well-being, it’s wise to reframe the subject. Understand that “Haters hate because they’re not me.” Sometimes it is people who are jealous and envious who trash talk. The reason they are angry is that you have succeeded where they fail.

Ultimately, what’s going on in your head is essential. If you are good at constructing your understanding of reality, then you can roughly expel these people away from your worldview. You can surround yourself with those you like and focus on having fun with your friends. If you do not look at the spreaders, in theory, they do not exist. Your thoughts focus instead on what’s right and positive in life.

The movie “The Secret” mentions some examples of a person who stopped worrying and ONLY focusing on things that are good and positive. He never saw again what was previously hostile. Several self-development techniques that I’ve written on my blog can help with this and everything else that’s stressful.

1 comment on “Rumour Control – How to stop gossip

  1. Katty cat

    Hello there 🙂

    Rumours can be tough to hear, or listen to. It get you self to think a lot, and it often destroys your week day, and you pondering a lot. So you often loose energy, and get very sensitive. You dont feel that you providing. But yes,which you say – people are different, and it can has something to say who you are with.

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