The importance of not judging girls (ASD)
In this post, we will write about the importance of not judging girls. If you «get» this, you, as a guy, will also get more sex. Some people shame girls for having sex with guys in our society. Calling them nasty names such as cheap, easy or sluts. Girls are afraid of these labels. In the seduction communities on the internet for men, they use the acronym ASD. This Stands for “Anti-Slut Defence.”
Therefore, flirting is often about “sub-communication”; it’s about communicating things in a non-verbal way. You don’t tell a new girl you met, “want to go home to my place and have sex?” you don’t verbalize it. Sex has to happen in her mind. Girls often use “plausible denial” or backward rationalization regarding sex.
If you want sex with a girl, you must understand this. You can never use words like “bitch” and “easy” about a girl. Saying such will trigger ASD or the feeling of shame. You will be perceived as a guy who is judging. It’s better to erase such words from your vocabulary. Even if you state these things about other girls, it does not matter because she will think that if you can say something like this to other girls. You might say similar things about her to others. The solution to all this is to use backward rationalization or excuses.
Backwards rationalization or excuses:
Rationalization is a fancy word to describe that girls need excuses. Often they have to defend to their friends or themselves WHY they had sex and why it happened. If you find a good reason, she can let sex happen because she has not accepted a sex invitation. She can never take a sex invitation directly because of the defence mechanism of being perceived slutty. Your job is to have good excuses for why you invite her home or get her into the bedroom. Practice finding reasons and making a list. Sometimes she gets it when you come up with excuses. It doesn’t matter since nobody is stating anything directly.
Examples of some excuses that can lead to sex:
“I am hungry; let us go and make some dinner” “I have a pizza and some tacos in the freezer”. “I told you about this crazy Youtube clip before; we just need to see that clip. “I have made chocolate from scratch, come up super quick and taste it and state your honest opinion”. “It’s Saturday now, only one time in the week, we have to party MORE, let us take some drinks at my place”. These examples show that you never ask directly about sex.
More examples of invitations to be physical:
“There is an afterparty at my place”. “I have to show you my stamp collection”. “It’s freezing outside; let us go inside and talk some more”. “If you want to try the spike mat, it’s in my bedroom”. “Let me show you some pictures of my holiday; the camera is in the bedroom”. “Let’s read together with this magazine, lay next to me and see why we men like this Men’s Health magazine.”
Lines that prove that you don’t judge (ASD removers):
These things you can say will make you come across as non-judgemental. Girls can have sex easier with guys who do not judge. So here are some lines that will help you come across as non-judgemental:
“I think it is SO stupid that some people call girls sluts if they have a healthy sex life; if a guy does the same, he is a player. It was stupid to judge people in 2020; a girl should get high fives if they get laid.”
“You know, my last girlfriend and I got to know each other after having sex, after having one nightstand. After that, we started hanging out and spent much time together. After a while, we became a couple, and that is how it started.”
“Sex happens all the time, is not a big deal; everybody has sex with everybody. That’s at least my impression, and I am not judging anyone. If someone wants an open relationship, for example, or enjoys being swingers, that’s nobody else’s business, and each person should decide what they want to do for themselves.”
If you get rejected:
So far, we have discussed the importance of not letting her feel cheap or easy to get. The trick is to find excuses for why you are getting home together or in the bedroom. She will probably not come to your apartment if she doesn’t like you. You might experience she likes you just as a friend, but you are good as long as you always read the signs. When you are alone and try to kiss her, the worst thing that can happen is she turns away. If she rejects you, respect this and go back to the conversation. Read about how people categorize you: https://abundance7.com/how-to-find-your-perfect-partner/
Rejection is not something to make a deal out of; simply return to your previous conversation. If she wants to talk about it, you can say that you find her sexy and think you are flirting. To learn more about the basics of dating, look here: https://abundance7.com/the-basics-in-dating/.
She does not want to be one of many:
Again, this can not be said directly. If you do, she has to reject you to save her perception of being classy. It is also important to her that her friends see her as elegant. If you are with your date, tell her friends, “I am flirting with many girls at the same time”, She will get triggered because you said your girl is «one of many».
If a girl feels like she is “one of many”, this will trigger ASD and shame, especially if it is verbalized! You might get away with stating it to the girl you date when you two are being alone. But if friends are listening, she knows they will understand she is one of many. She wants to be perceived as classy.
You are preselected:
You have to sub-communicate it, don’t verbalize it directly! It’s the same with being a “player” – you sub-communicate it but never verbalize it. It’s like you don’t say: “Hey, I am cool!” and you also don’t say: ” Hey, I am a player!”. Again flirting is about sub-communication. You can form her perception indirectly, but try to avoid saying things directly. She will perceive you as a player or a cool guy by watching your behaviour. Get the better game here: https://abundance7.com/how-to-attract-girls/
Here is a good trick that will help you remove the feeling of shame from girls. Future projections state things that you and your date can do together in the future. It could be all kinds of things. You could mention specific topics or general items. Say you look forward to doing an activity together another time sub-communicate to her that you are somewhat committed. You also don’t say it right before seduction, either. Calibrate what you say, though, so it doesn’t appear needy.
Tell her about all the fun you two can do together when it comes naturally. If you enjoyed each other’s company and walking by a museum, she hints that she wants to go there sometimes. It would be natural to say it would be fun if you two went once. You create a bond in her mind when you talk about future activities. It implies you might be a couple. But do not talk about wanting to see her family in the beginning. You could say, “We can do so many cool things together”. Another idea is to talk about a movie, “we have to see that movie together at a time”.
The reason for future projections is so the girl doesn’t think you will sleep with her and toss her away. She needs to understand you want to see her again. The future projection is giving her reassurance about this. Remember not to be too intense about it, but state it with a casual, laid-back tone.
Feel free to share this post with your mates or female friends and see what they think about this! Greetings from a non-judgemental person 😉
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It makes sense after reading the article.
This is really important, for both man and women!
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