Illusions in society
This post is about all the illusions that exist in society. When we grow up, we get told certain things, and as children, we believe what we are told. As we get older it is important to ask the questions to all “truths” we have been taught. There are some false ideas floating around in society as well. Here we will reveal those illusions:
#1. Pick up and seduction. Men are supposed to “be good with women”, but is not supposed to learn it or study it. Here we have a logical flaw. How can a person be good with women, and just “get it” when it is “controversial” to learn it? This is the reason why many men find information about dating on a web page like ours. Here men can learn how to attract and seduce beautiful women (We have concepts and information to women about men as well). As a tip, you can’t ask people about tips and techniques at school or workplace. The best is to find an experienced dating guru, or author and then discuss and practice these concepts with close friends: https://abundance7.com/category/dating/
#2. The heredity and environment debate. There is, at least in Scandinavia, an idea that the environment forms the individual. In many scientist minds, this is false. The environment has some effects on shaping a person, but we must not forget evolution, biology, and genes. Society has a tendency to downplay these things. I recommend the following series: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E577jhf25t4&list=PLd9_g7 – it is called brainwashed and talks about how society point to environmental causes, while science shows something else. In attraction and dating by instance, evolution psychology can explain a lot!
#3. Money. People who have a lot of money, are probably bad and hustlers. Anything else then a regularly 8-4 job doesn’t count as responsible. This is how many people think, this is the norm. to break from the norm AND benefit from it will lead to noise from all the people who follow the norms, and are perhaps not happy. To earn money from a website, a blog, write books or start a company is for most people regarded impossible. Many people view also rich people as immoral, a belief that money comes from hustling. There is also a tendency to feel guilty when you receive money, and a habit to use it right away.
#4. Spirituality and the paranormal. The scientific community hesitates to touch the subject of the paranormal. The paranormal has been viewed for a long time as something scary and threatening. Science has its duty to look at whatever it might be as long as it morally to understand the subject better. If you look at the data, there is clearly a lot of examples that show paranormal effects and phenomena. Most people don’t want to look at the data. It is here safer for them to keep their worldview they have been taught. Science on the paranormal: http://www.princeton.edu/~pear/. Our post on spirituality: https://abundance7.com/category/spirituality/
#5. To talk about game theory. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Game_theory. The reason is that this will give you an edge. I am generalizing a lot here, but many people just want to speak their mind. they don’t want to talk about how they talk, metacommunication. You have probably experienced some people don’t like to talk about this topic, but other friends love it! This is a subcategory of nr #8 to talk about things that give you benefits and power. People don’t always appreciate it if you talk about things that give you advantages.
#6. Obedience to authority. This is about believing your boss or your teacher even if your senses tells you otherwise. Now, authorities have a tendency to know what they are talking about. For example, science should, in theory, be the ultimate truth. The challenge is that many people in high place, are just humans and can be wrong. The science of dating and seduction is a good example. Most academics are not good with women, and all they have is a theory. But people who use “the scientific” method to flirt with girls to find out what works, would get better results. The point is to be your own scientist in whatever field you want to improve upon.
#7. To be right. This is about the need to be right. To have the other person to see things “your way”. This is often more important for people than actually finding out the truth. There exist people who give out advice for example, but don’t have any results in the area. These people are dangerous because they have strong opinions about topics and cant back it up. This implies that what they believe in is false, or they cant implement their own advice. The best indicator to see if someone is right is to see if they have a track record of success. You should also be open to new information and search for the truth instead of feeling you are right, by winning an argument.
#8. Don’t talk about your benefits. Generally speaking, people don’t like to hear about your advantages and your power. The different gains are something everybody wants, but the clever people don’t talk about it. You want to be rich, but you don’t want to talk about it. You may want to be charismatic, but you don’t say it explicitly. A good advice is to just seek power, but not talk about it. The reason is that people will often be jealous, or prevent you from reaching these things. The things you don’t talk about; power, money, charisma, allies, influence, spiritual powers, seduction skills, looks and other resources.
#9. Nice guys. Many guys have been raised to believing that being overly nice and polite will solve all problems in life. In the western world, many guys are raised by a single mom. Meaning many guys don’t have a male role model to look up to. In kindergarten and school, the female role keeps being strong. The point is they lack a male model, so they lose touch with what being a masculine man even mean. A masculine man from an evolutionary standpoint is a competitive man. being competitive will raise your chances to win. If you don’t want to be competitive for example, or don’t have the will to change yourself and improve. A misery life may be the consequence of it. Also, people don’t respect people who don’t have strong boundaries, others will walk over them. Learn more.
#10. Self-help and change work. Many people refuse to take advice on how to improve themselves. This is the same reason why it is a bad idea to give tip to people who don’t ask for it. Many people get angry if you give them a tip. The reason here is the implication that they can change, but they have not done so. This means they have done something wrong all this time. Some people also believe in the illusion of “being yourself”. They don’t realize that people change all the same. At school, you learn new information and are changed each year your graduate. Many people use rationalization to not change themselves. The real reason is that it is time-consuming, but give other reasons as mentioned. Everybody can change, you just need to start! https://abundance7.com/category/self-help/
#11. To try is bad. This is a common rationalization from people who are afraid of failure. The solution for them is to not even try. The same people frame people who try as inferior. There are two approaches to change work; 1. Discussing how to actually become better. 2. rationalizing how satisfied you are where you are. Rationalizations are widespread in our modern culture. People who try to approach girls, for example, are called inferior to those who just “let them come”. This example is pure illusion, it doesn’t work like that. Be aware of this kind of rationalization. To shame and pull down the ones who actually want to improve, is typical for people who don’t want to do anything to improve themselves. To try is an important step to take to be able to succeed in all areas of your life. Share with your friends!