Setting Boundaries is important, but not always easy. There are many situations where it’s hard to know what to say and do. But somewhere you should draw a line. This is especially crucial with manipulating people and energy vampires.
There are many forms for setting boundaries. The most obvious way is to say No. If someone asks you for a favor or if you want to join something you do not wish. You can say No, or “No thank you”, both these will work.
Another way of expressing your discontent is to simply ignore the sentence or the comment. Here you sub-communicate that you don’t take any part in this topic. remember that in this day and age your attention is a currency. Everything is attention-driven, media, news, commercials, and politics. Your attention is linked to your energy. There is an old saying that “where your attention goes, your energy flows”. To ignore is one of the tools you can exercise when dealing with energy vampires.
Ignoring can be done when you are with a person, but also over social media. For example not answering an SMS text. You can choose to ignore one sentence or from a person, or you can ignore the whole person. On Facebook for example you can “block” people. This is a very strong boundary and can be used if a person really oversteps your boundaries.
Another way to communicate that you are not happy is through body language. For example, giving a sharp stare while asking a question ” What did you mean with that”? This is often enough for people, to understand that they misbehaved and will often correct themself.
A clear way to protect yourself is also to just remove yourself from the situation or person. Sometimes people will try to belittle you by trying to be better and bigger than you. For example, if someone stands over you or really close to you. The same goes if you are at a party and someone sits at a really high chair and you are asked to sit on the floor. These are good examples of situations where it would be wise to just remove yourself from the situation.
Sometimes people will test you. The testing is mostly about your self-confidence and what good self-confidence implies. Sometimes people can make jokes at your cost.
Here you can laugh and joke back like you did not bother. Other times you can simply say ” I did not like this comment about me, I found it rude.
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