Setting Boundaries is essential but not always easy. There are many situations where it’s hard to know what to say and do. But somewhere, you should draw a line. This is especially crucial with manipulating people and energy vampires.

There are many forms of setting boundaries. The most obvious way is to say No. If someone asks you for a favour or if you want to join something you do not wish. You can say No, or “No thank you”; both these will work.

Another way of expressing discontent is simply ignoring the sentence or comment. Here you sub-communicate that you don’t take any part in this topic. Remember that in this day and age, your attention is a currency. Everything is attention-driven, media, news, commercials, and politics. An old saying is, “Where your attention goes, your energy flows”. Ignoring is one tool you can exercise when dealing with energy vampires.

Ignoring can be done with someone and over social media—for example, by not answering an SMS text. You can ignore one sentence or from a person or the whole person. On Facebook, for example, you can “block” people. This solid boundary can be used if a person oversteps her boundaries.

Another way to communicate that you are not happy is through body language. For example, are you giving a sharp stare while asking the question, ” What did you mean by that”? This is often enough for people to understand that they misbehaved and will often correct themself.

A straightforward way to protect yourself is to remove yourself from the situation or person. Sometimes people will try to belittle you by trying to be better and bigger than you. For example, if someone stands over you or is close to you. The same goes if you are at a party and someone sits in a high chair and is asked to sit on the floor. These are good examples of situations where removing yourself from the situation would be wise.

Sometimes people will test you. The testing is mostly about your self-confidence and what good self-confidence implies. Sometimes people can make jokes at your cost.
Here you can laugh and joke back like you did not bother. OtherYou can also say” I, did not like this comment about me; I found it rude. 

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